One point is clear: There are no problemless marriages. There are ups and downs in every relationship. And despite what Hollywood will sell you, no one in this real world feels loved in word and act or fulfilled every single day. But three common elements show up again and again among those who have endured "the burden and heat of the day" and gone on to saving their marriage from divorce . A spiritually-centered commitment to save marriage from divorce that lasts despite arguments, pain and denial, and continues to last through adjustments and pressures. Sharing moments with each other, however rare, when there really is personal and intimate sharing, and the struggle seems worth it. (This can mean a personal sense of spiritual well-being even while the partner seems unappreciative or unresponsive.) Saving your marriage requires a willingness to take time and energy to make it work. This often means radical adjustments and patience. I will use three real...